![]() Sure, you'll make new friends in the future - at work, through your spouse, through your kids - but you won't get to that Tier 1 brothers level, or even to Tier 2, with very many of them because people who meet as adults don't tend to get through the 100+ long, lazy hangouts needed to reach a bond of that strength. Then one day, usually around your mid- or late 20s, it hits you: It's not that easy to make friends anymore. Whatever your particular mountain looks like, eventually the blur of your youth is behind you, the dust has settled, and there you are living your life. When you hear that something bad happens to one of these people, you pretend to be sad but you don't actually care.įinally, acquaintances gradually blend into the endless world of strangers.Īnd depending on who you are and how things shook out in those first 25 years, the way your particular mountain looks will vary. The lowest part of Tier 3 begins to blend indistinguishably into your large group of acquaintances (the pink zone): those people you'd stop and talk to if you saw them on the street or would maybe email for professional purposes but whom you'd never hang out with one-on-one. You may also try to sleep with one of these people at any given time. Your relationship tends to exist mostly as part of a bigger group or through the occasional Facebook Like, and it doesn't even really stress you out when you hear that one of them made $5 million last year. You might grab a one-on-one drink with one of them when you move to their city, but then it surprises neither of you when five years pass and drink #2 is still yet to happen. Toward the bottom of the mountain in the orange zone, you have your Tier 3 friends: your Not Really friends. And if something huge happens in their life, there's a good chance you'll hear it first from someone else. ![]() If you live in the same city, you might see them every month or two for dinner and have a great time when you do, but if one of you moves, you might not speak for the next year or two. You might be invited to their wedding, but you won't have any responsibilities once you're there. Pretty Good friends are a much calmer situation than your brothers and sisters on Tier 1. ![]() Tier 1 is high stakes.īelow, in the yellow zone, are your Tier 2 friends: your Pretty Good friends. Unfortunately, depending on how things went down in your youth, Tier 1 can also contain your worst enemies, the people who can ruin your day with one subtle jab that only they could word so brilliantly hurtfully, the people you feel a burning resentment for, or jealousy of, or competition with. These are the people closest to you, the ones you call first when something important happens, the ones you love even when they suck, who make speeches at your wedding, whose best and worst sides you know through and through, and whose relationship with you is eternal even if you go months or years without hanging out, nothing has changed when you find yourself together again. Via Wait But Why post and used with permission.Īt the top of your life mountain, in the green zone, you have your Tier 1 friends - the people who feel like brothers and sisters. See also: Ancestry vs.Visual interpretation of where friends fall on the mountain of “You." Hit the Share button at the top to post the animation to social media or send to friends and family. If you're a subscriber, you can then manually select one of the special animations, like blowing a kiss or dancing.
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